Dear Lost & Confused. A Message for Hurt Souls...

 A few months ago, before graduating from university, I was asked to read this particular piece of work to my lecture class, along with other inspiring presentations by fellow students. My original purpose of writing this was to comfort a friend. A very close friend of mine had been going through a hard time, and I wanted to be a source of reminder. I wanted to remind my friend that we should never aim to please others in living our lives. We should only aim to please ourselves. Those that love us will love what we love. Those that seek to change us, are only reflecting their own insecurities on to you.  In being a supportive source in another persons life we do not necessarily need to agree with all that they do, but we do need to be a source of acceptance and comfort. It is never okay to judge another person based on the way they conduct their lives, especially when they are doing no harm to others. Being embarrassed or otherwise is not an excuse to degrade another human. We were all created equally, and we should all be treated as such. Judging another person and trying to change who they are says more about you than it does about them.

-S

Dear Lost&Confused,

   Do not let the backward ways of small minded individuals affect the way you regard yourself. You are the most important person in your life. Your peace of mind is of the utmost significance. There will always be sad people. Ignorant people. Insecure people. And mean people. You will likely encounter all of these people. Sometimes in the form of one person. Sometimes you will face these people on a daily basis, and it will often be out of your control. But what is in your control, is who you share your spirit and energy with.

     Be careful who you choose to share yourself with. Do things not for approval or applause but to allow yourself your own inner peace. This peace does not mean constant happiness or understanding. It means that you recognize and appreciate the highs and lows that life will inevitably bring. It means that throughout these highs and lows your faith and trust in the universe remains. Allow yourself to feel your emotions; happy, sad, angry, hurt, but do not become stuck in any one of these feelings. Do not let people tell you how to be, feel, dress, act, or live. Often when people are attempting to fix what they deem wrong about your true self, they are reflecting their own insecurities upon you. They are attempting to fix what is wrong within them by demeaning you.

     Do not ever let anyone make you feel inferior because you are more significant to the sum total of the world than you are aware of. And you are more special than you know.  

Sincerely,
A warm embrace